How to Overcome the Temptation of a Visual Affair in the Digital Age

Your husband has started staying up late, and when you wake up to find him, he’s right there in front of his computer. As soon as he sees you, he quickly retreats to another site—a safe one. You ask why he’s up so late, and he always has a good excuse, but s a visual affair in your gut tells you something’s wrong. You’ve noticed he’s not interested in intimacy as he once was. He says he’s “tired” or “not as young as he used to be.” You start feeling rejected, distrustful, and discouraged. You think you’ll “spice things up,” so you buy some a visual affair underwear to attract him. Either it doesn’t work, or it even turns him off. Then he starts wearing more revealing clothes. If you don’t feel like wearing them but still want a visual affair, he pouts and walks away. You notice the clothes are starting to look like what hookers wear, and you begin to feel like a prostitute.

The mood in the bedroom becomes, “Get dressed or leave me alone. “You start wondering what’s wrong with you. Have you gained weight? Are you getting older? Are you to blame for his decreasing interest in you? So you decide to follow his needs. And you feel like a slut. This isn’t how it used to be! You used to come to bed in a sweatshirt, and he’d be all around you. One night, when you’re wearing that outfit, in the middle of the excitement, he calls you a pornlava name. You can’t believe your ears! You’ve been a visual affair for more than 25 years, and he’s never talked to you like this before. He’s just confirmed your worst fears: your husband is acting like he’s having a visual affair with a street prostitute, not you. He’s never been there for you in that bed at all.